After having turned and returned the question a lot of times in your head, the conclusion is today without appeal, you have found your other half! The one with whom you think you will have a long way to go, and with a little luck, to walk the whole road together. It’s time to take the plunge and show him your total commitment. Traditionally, this involves a formal marriage proposal. Either way, we know that it almost automatically comes with a pretty engagement ring.
It is when choosing this strong symbolic jewel that we can sometimes encounter certain difficulties. What type of ring to choose? What size?…. So many questions whose answers, not fixed, will depend on the tastes of the future bride as well as the budget you want to dedicate to this piece of jewelry. Nothing like being able to rely on the advice of jewelry professionals to guide you in this choice. Here are a few tips to enlighten you and inspire you throughout this thorny stage.
Before addressing the question of the tastes of your other half or the budget you have, here is a short reminder of the difference between an engagement ring and a wedding ring.
The engagement ring or promise ring is a piece of jewelry that is traditionally offered to your other life partner of their marriage proposal. If your partner accepts it (we hope you do!), She will wear it on the left ring finger. Typically, the engagement ring is a gold ring (mostly white) and topped with a diamond called Solitaire. If the tradition wants that the man chooses alone the engagement ring before making his request, the choice is made more and more often by two, or by the woman herself.
The wedding ring is a gold ring that seals the union, and which is also worn on the left ring finger on the wedding day. Contrary to what many men think (including us!), A woman can definitely decide to wear the engagement ring and the wedding ring together after getting married. Typically, the investment is more for the engagement ring than for the wedding ring. Both jewels are intended to be kept for life, hence the importance of choosing quality rings.
1. What are the different types of engagement rings?
To find your way around the different types of engagement rings, here are some guidelines that you may find useful:
What metal use for ENGAGEMENT RING?
Silver: For an engagement ring, Silver is generally not recommended. While its shiny and stainless appearance may seem like a serious argument, silver is a metal that will age less well than gold and platinum. It is therefore not the best choice for a jewel that suppose to last a lifetime!
Platinum: used in fine jewelry, platinum is a precious metal that, like gold, has a long lifespan. In contrast, platinum is very difficult to work with for jewelers, which makes platinum jewelry particularly expensive.
Gold: this is the main metal used. Pure gold (24 karats) jewelry is rare because the metal is not strong enough to hold in the long term. The majority of jewelry is crafted from 18k gold which means it is paired with other metals. It is this association that defines its color of gold (yellow, pink, white or black). For example, rose gold is due to a greater amount of copper in the alloy.
What stone should be used in an ENGAGEMENT RING?
Fine (or semi-precious) stones: they are more affordable than precious stones. It is generally not recommended to select a ring with a semi-precious stone. While these may seem tempting, they are of lower quality and may not last a lifetime.
Precious stones: there are 4 precious stones: diamond, emerald, ruby , and sapphire. The diamond more regularly chooses this type of ring. It is the strongest stone (10/10 on the Mohs scale). The way the stone works also has an impact on its strength.
Models resembling those worn by certain celebrities are generally popular.
2. What types of jewelry does a girl appreciate?
Two elements will then determine the choice of this symbolic jewel: the budget and the desire to please him! This last point is obviously essential. The idea is to choose a model that will surely seduce her and that will remain timeless over the years. This is no small feat, especially when you consider the number of brands and rings on offer in the jewelry market. Yet, she may already have a pretty good idea of what she would like to see around her ring finger in the event of a hypothetical marriage proposal.
Better yet, she probably innocently sent some signals that we haven’t necessarily been paying attention to. It is not too late to try to decipher them or to bring them to the surface. During walks sometimes accompanied by a little window shopping, she may voluntarily show a model, a style of ring that she finds very beautiful. It is essential to pay special attention to this type of trip and to “innocuous” remarks.
Beyond the symbolic aspect that the purchase of such a piece of jewelry represents, it should be borne in mind that, logically, she proudly displayed it on her finger for several decades. In order to make your choice easier, we have prepared a small series of questions whose answers can already be found in your current environment:
- Does she wear jewelry and more specifically rings? If this is not the case, it will certainly be necessary to move towards a timeless and rather discreet model.
- Is it a piece of jewelry that she can wear and assume on a daily basis? Indeed, in the event that you see a solitaire with a colored stone such as ruby, sapphire, or emerald, be sure that she will dare to put it on her finger in all circumstances (or almost) and with all her outfits.
- Is she used to wearing discreet or imposing jewelry? If you go for a prominent diamond, think about practicality and everyday tasks. A huge stone can make some dream of it while others will struggle to wear it every day. You will find the answer to this question simply by observing what she is already wearing.
- Who could help me with this choice? Why not ask someone close to you to help you and transfer some of the weight of this heavy mission onto the shoulders of an accomplice? Whether it’s her parents or her best friend, you will find someone who knows her (almost) as well as you …
- Has she ever referred to the engagement ring her girlfriend Suzie received during her marriage proposal? She certainly gave an opinion on the said jewel, which allows you to appreciate what she likes and whatnot. Provided of course to remember the kind of model worn by Suzie, that’s another story!
3. What if we bought ethical jewelry?
While ethical concerns are increasing when it comes to purchasing our clothes, they are even less present when it comes to our jewelry. Although it is now possible to be able to trace the origin of metals, it is different for precious stones and the reality of what is called “blood diamonds” is still very present. However, we can put the matter into perspective thanks to the fact that the top three diamond-producing countries are Russia (30%), Canada, and Botswana. Together, they represent almost half of world production. Despite everything, a large part extracts in underdeveloped countries, sometimes helping to finance armed conflicts. Guillaume, co-founder of ethical jewelry.
In recent years, the creation of synthetic diamonds has spread. If this practice makes it possible to respond to the problems explained above, it also has an environmental impact 3 to 4 times greater than the extraction of natural diamonds.
Also, it is no longer rare to find brands on the market that offer recycled gold jewelry. Concretely, this gold comes from the recasting of unused gold like old jewelry but also old coins or industrial materials. Infinitely reusable, recycled gold thus avoids the extraction of new kilos of gold. On average, it takes 50,000 liters of water, 150 liters of gasoline, and 18 kg of sulfur oxide to extract just 20 grams of gold. And this quantity will also have 415kg of CO2 produced. For a ring, that’s more than 12,000 liters of water and 750 grams of cyanide, a real disaster for the environment.
4. How much should you spend on an engagement ring?
When you have a more precise idea of the type of ring that could please your sweetheart, the question of the budget you want to allocate to this object will arise. Indeed, it is not easy to assess what we can really offer him when the world of jewelry is unknown to us. As mentioned above in the article, the price of the jewel will depend on the chosen metal (silver, gold, platinum) as well as on the size and regularity of the diamond, or stone. According to tradition, the ring should cost the equivalent of one to two months’ salary. The United States sets the bar even higher, by climbing to three months’ salary! Of course, it’s important to allocate a budget that is up to your means, and your sweetheart won’t blame you if you don’t take out a consumer loan to finance that big rock!
Perhaps you will more reassure by browsing the online jewelry sites which offer a wide selection dedicated to this occasion. This approach will allow you to familiarize yourself with the many existing models, to refine your research and why not make this project a reality by placing an order.
From a financial point of view, the purchase of this jewel on the internet can indeed present some advantages, one of the online jewelers explains:
“Our prices are very attractive, which is explained by the absence of a point of sale as well as our large sales volumes, unlike traditional jewelry stores. Our catalog offers a wide choice and our deadlines are often shorter. More than 800 engagement rings are available, which allows having very eclectic models to satisfy all desires! We also have our own artisan jeweler who takes care of special requests and tailor-made creations. Not to mention our advisers trained in the world of jewelry capable of answering all questions, even the most technical. ”
In order to give you some notions on the prices charged, we suggest you take a look at these indications (not exhaustive) which may vary according to the jewelry stores:
From 50$ and more
If you have a very, very tight budget but want to create the “Wow” effect, go for a solitaire with a silver ring and a cubic zirconia stone. Although this association is less qualitative, there are pretty models from 50$.
From 250 $ and more
If you are not ready to draw a line on a beautiful gold ring (yellow, white, pink) but your finances are limited; associate it with a zirconium oxide stone and count a minimum of 250 $.
From 500 $and more
Despite a limited budget, for you, an engagement ring necessarily rhymes with gold and real diamonds. You will find timeless and chic solitaires with a real stone from 250 $ in jewelry and 500 $ at a jeweler. With a slightly higher budget, you will more easily find more elaborate models with a real stone of pretty size (diamond, ruby, emerald, sapphire…) sometimes embellished with small diamonds mounted on a gold ring. Count between 500 $ and 1000 $.
Between 1000 $ and 1800 $
If you are ready to invest a certain amount in your engagement ring, you will be able to find very beautiful models around 1000 $. In particular, you can invest in a durable ring with attractive finishes, in 18 karat gold.
At 1800 $ and more
Maybe you’ve been saving up for 2 years to give her the ring of her dreams. Some women indirectly submit ideas from big brands. In the world of luxury jewelry, you will find jewelry made with the most beautiful metals and the most beautiful stones. All this obviously has a cost since it will be necessary to pay at least 1,800 $ for a simple ring and up to 12,150 $ and more for a ring worthy of the crown jewels!
Attention, far from us the idea of inviting you to empty your PEL for the purchase of this engagement ring. It’s up to you to find the right balance between what might appeal to him and your budget. The last step, and not the least, will be finding the right jeweler who will help you balance these two elements. The most difficult will be to choose from the multitude of small rings arranged on either side of the store. Note, however, that the price is often justified by the durability of the ring.
5. Which size to choose?
One of the questions that will arise when buying the jewel is that of its ring finger. Usually, it sort by size, from smallest (46) to largest (62). If you have no idea, don’t panic: most jewelers used to sell you the model they have in store and offer to come back with the future bride to define her exact size and order the ring. The case is the same when purchasing online, you will be able to return the ring to obtain an exchange. Finally, this size story should absolutely not become a hindrance or a means of betraying you to her.
For the thickness of the ring, the most important element to observe is the length of the fingers. It all comes down to common sense. An imposing ring on a short finger will give the impression of occupying the entire phalanx! We recommend a ring large enough for long fingers, while a thin ring will be suitable for shorter fingers.
If it is true that the solitaire represents about 95% of the rings traditionally offered for this type of occasion, nothing set in stone. If you marry her, it is certainly because she is not a woman like the others. Perhaps she will appreciate a touch of originality in the choice of this jewel? In this case, there is nothing wrong with choosing a model that has absolutely nothing to do with the classic diamond mounted on a ring. Another option can be to reuse stones from family jewels (no pun intended) and mount them on a ring designed by you with the help of a jeweler.